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A Real Wedding Story~ Top Tips from the Maid of Honor

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Happy Wedding Wednesday everyone!

As we all know, wedding planning can be a bit stressful at times for all parties involved. If you are part of the bridal party, it’s also a huge honor as well as a huge responsibility. I’ve been a bridesmaid a few times myself and even though I have many years of wedding planning experience, it can still become stressful because emotions are running high. But just remember, as a member of the bridal party, it’s your job to help the couple and continue to remind them that everything will be ok! A wedding is a day filled with love and joy!

Morgan Gray is a real maid of honor. Her sister’s wedding is coming up in the next couple of weeks, so she decided to share her journey with us and some tips to help other maid of honors. So you’re going to be a Maid of Honor? What’s next?

Take it away Morgan……

So you’ve been chosen to be the maid of honor for one of your best friends in the world. Now what? It’s an incredible honor, but with it comes great responsibility. You are an essential part of the bride and groom’s special day, and you have certain duties and obligations that are all part of agreeing to serve as the maid of honor. It’s your job to assist, or serve, the bride in any way you can. You need to help make the entire wedding process a joy and a blessing for her.

I’ve been in your shoes. My sister asked me to serve as her maid of honor, and of course, I was thrilled. But I was also a bit overwhelmed and didn’t quite know where to start. There is so much that goes into a wedding that it can seem impossible to know where to start. But there is hope, here is some advice on how I managed my maid of honor duties and made sure my sisters wedding was everything she wanted and more.

A Real Wedding Story~ Top Tips from the Maid of Honor

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So first thing my sister and I did was sit down and draw out a roadmap of everything that was needed before the big day. There are so many moving parts involved in a wedding that it can be easy to lose track of who is at what stage, who needs to get paid when, taking care of all the invites, and of course the wedding gifts, which my sister specifically wants to be personalized.

Once we had this all figured out we put it all the vendors into an excel spreadsheet. We had it set up so we could see who the vendor was, what and when they needed to be paid, and whether or not there were any special notes involved. Having everything in one spot to reference is a great way to stay organized and stay on top of things.

The Toast

Ah the dreaded toast, scary enough to make any girl think twice before accepting maid of honor duties. How are you supposed to sum up all of your feelings about the bride and groom and present them in front of a crowd of their closest friends and family. Also if the reception is being taped your toast is going to be etched forever in their home video collection to be watched for generations to come. But don’t worry it is manageable.

First thing I did was make an outline, I had an intro, an anecdote about my sister, a story about her and her husband, then I threw in some heartfelt comments and asked everyone to raise their glasses. Nice and clean and all in under five minutes. There’s nothing worse than a long bad speech, well maybe two long bad speeches.

The Big Day

Ok this is it, all the plannings over, it’s go time. On the day off the bride should have nothing to worry about besides getting married. One thing I recommend is making itineraries for everyone involved in the bridal party. This way everyone will know where they have to be and when, instead of people scrambling around and everything falling behind schedule. Also I recommend packing an emergency kit with anything you may need.

Any sort of beauty supplies or miscellaneous items you think may come in handy during the day, pack them. Also at some point don’t forget to take it all in. One of the most important people in your life is about to get married and they asked you to be there next to them. It’s easy to get swept up in the hysteria but take a moment and reflect on how special this day actually is.

Being a maid of honor can seem like a curse more than a blessing at times but you will be so glad you did it afterwards. Just be sure to take everything one day at a time and try to stay organized and on top of things as the day gets closer. Remember: the bride chose you for a reason.

A huge thanks to Morgan for this wonderful guest post!

Happy planning loves!